Monday, January 26, 2009

Darn, why does it always seem to be this way?

I found a helper (or I thought I did) ....We had maybe three days over the past few weeks where we worked pretty well and got some things done. I even dared to make an appointment with someone to replace my broken garbage disposal because I figured that at the rate we were going, the kitchen, etc would be clean enough for him to work by the time he came this week (or so I was hoping). But the new helper has cancelled the last 3 or 4 times we have tried to set up -- including TODAY (Mondays were supposed to be our guarenteed working days even if the other days didn't work out!) :-(
I understand her reasons, her kids have been sick, and I realize and understand that family must take precidence. But it still makes it hard over on this end. When she came for the very first interview she lied to me about having her kids living with her. (They were in foster care, but she didn't want to let me know that cuz she was afraid that I would judge her about that.... I don't think I would have ....) I mention this not because of the kids being in foster care, (she has them back now anyway) but because of how good she was at lying! She had me totally fooled, she was very smooth with it! (I am not good at lying, myself) So, of course, now I am wondering if I am being lied to again. I hope not. I have told her that if she feels she can no longer work for me, just let me know, so I can start looking again for another helper.... I admit, I am sooo tired of looking for helpers, and then thinking I have found a good one, only to find that, for whatever reason, it is not working out again. :-(
I find the looking/hiring process to be FAR harder than all the work we have to do cleaning! I don't necc want to start looking AGAIN! :-(
Anyway, I am just complaining in here to be able to vent a bit. Of course, I want her family/kids to be healthy and to get over the cold/flu problems that have been affecting them.


Alphonsus said...

I'm sorry you're having problems, Skye. Blogs are great for venting things, aren't they. Things will get better. Huggles.

Anonymous said...

Too bad we could not get all of the Faeria group together in RL and descend upon you - we could have the whole thing done in an hour if we could get the whole group together!

And venting is fine - I don't do it as often as I should on my own blog I think.

Princess Ivory said...

AuroraSkye, I am so sorry - that must be very frustrating for you. Wouldn't it be nice if we could indeed round up the Faeria clan and visit friends in need, and help them out. I know of several people I would help if I could (including you!), and there are times I could stand to be rescued myself by the Faeria Brigade. Maybe we should all save up our vacation days and our money, and travel around on vacation together helping each other out! I've heard worse ideas. :)

Hang in there. I hope things get better. Personally, I would look for a new helper.

Malicious Intent said...

Oh I know this frustration all to well. Before we found our current home health aide, I went through I bet a dozen. And the sad reality is this....they are all getting paid very little, most of them have a lot of personal issues and no matter what agency you go through, they are all hiring from the same pool of folks hoping from one place to another hoping to get just a few cents more on their hourly rate.

Not have every right to be frustrated.

They are there to help us, but we end up dealing with all of their personal issues in addition to our own.